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“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself”-George Bernard Shaw #life #mentalhealth #mindfulness #selfcare #create #mentalhealth #awareness #selfreflection #mindset

Posted by on May 20, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

We all have felt lost at different times in our lives.  Sometimes we feel completely stuck, as if all is out of our control.  As we continue to self-reflect this month, let’s find our inner creativity.  If you are searching to figure out who you are, perhaps you can stop and ask yourself who you want to become.  A first step could be how you think through situations.  Sometimes we corner ourselves, not knowing where we are or how to find a solution.  We may not find one, but we can always create one!

Our challenge this week is going to be reflecting on how we approach negative situations in our lives.  What is happening this week that you are not thrilled about? Let’s look at the difference between a negative mindset and positive mindset…

Ex. A:”I’m not thrilled about the meeting with my boss because my presentation is not finished and I feel stuck. I am such a loser and we may lose this customer!”

Ex B:  “My presentation is not finished because I need some further direction.  Maybe my boss can help lead me so I know how to finish it or maybe I can call the customer and let them know we care about their product and want to get it right, perhaps they can give me further insight on what they are looking for? Either way I may get more information that will help me finish, even before the meeting!”

In Example A, we are defeated, putting ourselves in a place where there is no direction with a negative mindset.  In Example B, we are creating solutions for ourselves and praising our effort to keep us going, what a difference!

Stop trying to find yourself and start creating the person you want to become through a positive mindset.

 

“He who looks outside dreams. He who looks inside wakes”-Carl Jung #mentalhealth #selfreflection #selfcare #mindfulness #values

Posted by on May 13, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

Carl Jung was a psychiatrist and early developer of psycho-analytical psychology and personality types from the early 1900s.  The entirety of his work and research was majority based on self-reflection.  This quote can be simplified to encourage us to look inside ourselves for the answers we are seeking.

The challenge this week is to connect to your inner-core for the answers you seek.  When you find yourself looking outside for a solution, reconnect inside to your own feelings and thoughts. It’s easy to search for answers from others, especially friends, family or people who’ve had similar experiences to us, but you know you best!  Ask yourself, “How do I feel right now about this?” “What is my initial gut-reaction?,” “If a friend asked me this, what would I tell them?” Give yourself a different perspective to connect to your inner-conscience and values.  Through this, I hope you awaken your inner-guidance, find confidence in yourself and trust that you have all you need to make the best decisions!

“Everything you want is just outside your comfort zone”-Robert G. Allen @BestSellerBob #comfortzone #motivation #goals #optimism #mindfulness #mentalhealth #anxiety #depression #selfreflection

Posted by on May 6, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

May’s theme for our Blogspiration is going to be about self-reflection.  If you are the type of person who loves a “to-do” list, put this at the bottom now.  Time to reflect is important for understanding our strengths, weaknesses and learning about ourselves.

The quote this week is for our dreamers out there who have goals in mind, but can’t seem to reach them.  Usually what holds people back is the step to break through their comfort zone.  For example, maybe you want to start cooking.  You collect cookbooks, bookmark the recipes, buy the ingredients and when it comes time to cook it’s just uncomfortable so you don’t try.  Or maybe you just started working out again and as soon as you feel uncomfortable attempting 5 minutes of working out, you stop.  Getting to the next level is just outside that comfort zone as the quote reminds us. Reflect on what may be holding you back, is it fear? Is it past failure? Is it your inner-bully?

The challenge this week is to push past the comfort zone.  Take action!  Even if it’s 1 step outside that  zone, it’s a step closer to reaching a goal. Yes you can!

“The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not”-George Bernard Shaw #happy #miserable #mindset #mentalhealth #mindfulness

Posted by on Apr 29, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

Ending our Blogspiration theme this month on limiting beliefs I thought I would end on this quote.  Basically it is saying it is a leisure to have time to think about your feelings.  Of course most of our “time” is spent in our head, so what we “say” in there is important!

The challenge this week is to be mindful and recognize that if your thoughts are dwelling on negativity, worry or other limiting beliefs-recognize that this is a leisure!  It doesn’t mean you need to get busier so you can avoid time to think, it means you can change the way you think.  For example, if you are thinking about how you are not happy in a relationship…perhaps you can further that thought to how you can communicate what you need from your partner.  Dwelling in negativity and letting it cycle in your head will not be helpful…challenge those thoughts with positive action. What will you do to make a difference?

“Don’t wait for the perfect moment, take the moment and make it perfect”-Unknown #perfection #anxiety #depression #mentalhealth #mindfulness #positivity #selftalk

Posted by on Apr 22, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

We’ve all been there…your day just can’t seem to get worse.  Perfection doesn’t exist, however we can find the positives in the moment, even with things out of our control.  For example: at an amusement park last summer my daughter and I were waiting in a crazy long line to see Cookie Monster.  There was another mom in front of us who clearly did not want to wait in this line.  She kept yelling at her son, wouldn’t let him move around and kept complaining about the line.  Sure, I didn’t want to wait in this line either…it was hot and boring.  However I knew I had the choice to complain and be miserable or to stay positive for my daughter and do something to pass the time.   I allowed my daughter to run around in circles around me, we sang songs, we danced to music on my phone, we played “i spy,” I asked her to show me her poses she would do with Cookie Monster when it was our turn…the 30 minutes we were in line actually felt like 10 minutes…all because I made the choice to take that boring moment and make it something else.

This week when you find yourself in a negative moment, give yourself the choice…it is what you make it, so make it good!

“I saw what my trouble was. I was trying to wash today’s dishes and yesterday’s dishes and dishes that weren’t even dirty yet”-Reverend William Wood #mentalhealth #anxiety #mindset #selftalk #worry #mindfulness

Posted by on Apr 15, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

Talk about limiting beliefs!….we all do this from time to time.  We worry about something from our past, something that is happening now, creating our worst fears for tomorrow and are biting or nails about mistakes we make now that will leave us homeless and alone in a zombie apocalypse 10yrs from now. Yikes!

The challenge this week is to catch your worry and bring yourself back to the present.  Get curious and mindful about what’s going on. Ask yourself:

  • What am I feeling right now?
  • What actual information do I have?/What are the actual facts of these worries?
  • Is there anything I can do right now about these worries?
  • Is this worry doing anything to help me now?

Chances are, the worry is not helping you.  Focus on things you can do to really help yourself.  Maybe instead of worrying about the dishes piling up, go and clean what’s in the sink-poof! worry gone. If you are worrying about getting a bonus this year, go ask your boss what the likeliness of a raise this year looks like while giving him a list of things you’ve accomplished over your typical responsibilities.  I guarantee that staying in the present will help you focus better, minimize your worry and give you more energy to do what you actually can!

 

 

“Part of growing up is discarding the personas that aren’t contributing to our happiness and success in life”- @GayHendricks #mentalhealth #happiness #reinvention #anxiety #depression

Posted by on Apr 8, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

I love this Gay Hendricks quote, because it challenges our limiting beliefs that come from the past.  Maybe you tell someone you are “a shy person,” “the overbearing mom,” “the worrier,” “the boss,” or the “advice giver” and deep down you don’t want to be these definitions. Often, we let experiences from our past define who we are today.  You can be the person you want to be and can start letting others know you are not the person you define yourself as anymore!  So, for example, if you are typically the “advice giver” and your friend asks for advice, turn it back to her this time…”what do you think about this?” This lets her know you aren’t going to churn out an answer and gets her to start thinking for herself…a win win!

With past definitions comes a certain pressure to perform, often stresses us out and leaves us feeling defeated from becoming the person we want to be.  Start small this week and pick an area of your life you want to change…”act” like the person you want to be in situations where you define yourself otherwise and watch those definitions slowly fade and stay in the past where they belong!

“If you run from your fears, they will follow you. If you run straight at your fears, they will get the hell out of your way. Fears hate it when you do that”- @JenSincero #fears #goals #mindset #mentalhealth #anxiety

Posted by on Apr 1, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

It’s the start of a new month and this month’s got a theme!  The theme is….da don doonnnn: Conquering our limiting beliefs!

The Blogspiration quote this week by Jen Sincero is to challenge and motivate you to conquer your fears.  Maybe you have a fear of asking for a raise or giving that cute guy you keep seeing your number.  Whatever it is, I am giving you the challenge to tell those fears to take a hike, get a little uncomfortable and ultimately make things happen!  Even if there isn’t a positive outcome, find the positive in getting out of your comfort zone, conquering a fear and actually doing it because that’s what matters here, not the result.  Hopefully you feel a positive surge of energy facing a fear head-on this week, you can do it and you are awesome for trying!

In a gentle way, you can shake the world-Mahatma Gandhi #gandhi #change #kindness #hope #mentalhealth #helpothers #volunteer

Posted by on Mar 25, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

Do you know why I like to shop for my daughter at the Disney store?…because consistently every time I shop there they tell me to “have a magical day!” It literally shakes my world because the next store associate may not speak to me at all or I may get a disgruntled grunt.  It baffles me that my world is shaken by people who are nice! That’s just not the norm these days.  When people are nice to me, it motivates me to be nice back and continue the gesture.  Let’s shake the world together this week (and maybe everyday after that)!

This week, extend a gentle gesture to shake someone else’s world.  Remember we are all people, all have our own issues and could all use a nice moment in our lives. Bring a coworker coffee, say hello to your jerky neighbor, give up a subway seat to someone else…whatever it is, know that you are sending out kindness and positive energy through not just that moment, but to the world.  It’s contagious as long as we keep it going…

“Be open to possibilities and plan for opportunities”-Laura Vanderkam #possibilities #opportunities #selfcare #dreams #mentalhealth #anxiety #preparation

Posted by on Mar 18, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

We often expect the worst when we have the opportunity to plan for the best.  For example, when I am speaking at conferences I carry business cards with me in case people are interested in working with one of our counselors.  I always hang around after I speak for a few minutes to stay open to the possibility that someone will want to talk to me and usually they do!  I hear incredible and fascinating stories about people’s experiences, hardships or how counseling helped them turn their lives around.  It’s really an incredible part of my job!

What can you do this week to be open to possibilities and plan for opportunities?  For example, sometimes I see clients who describe themselves as something like a “guitarist” or “writer” and when I asked them what music they play or what they write I am sometimes told they haven’t done it yet…what?!?  For example, if you want to be a guitarist, be open to playing the guitar, don’t worry about being the best!  Plan for the opportunity that when you have time to play this week  you will start playing!

Think of what else is possible in your week whether it’s being in the right place to catch your boss and ask for time off or speak to that cute person at the coffee shop.  Fear will not take you where you want to go, give yourself the best chance to make things happen!