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“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great”-Zig Ziglar #newyear #resolutions #goals #start #motivate #inspiration #mentalhealth #staypositive #energy

Posted by on Jan 7, 2019 in Blog | 0 comments

2018 is now a full week behind us!  Let’s now look at what’s in front of us and feel the new year energy in the air!

Each week this month, the Blogspiration’s theme will be to continue to motivate you to keep up a positive momentum as time continues on for 2019.

The quote this week is a reminder that we cannot expect perfection when we start something new.  Despite what photoshopped celebrities and diet water ads tell us, it is not possible to wake up tomorrow and reach your goal of losing 20lbs, multiplying your savings account 10x or writing your 500 page memoir starting today.  Reaching any goal requires patience, failure (to learn from), forgiveness and discipline to reach.

This week, what will your start look like? Maybe it’s going for a 10 minute walk on the treadmill, starting an online dating profile or cleaning out old coupons from your junk drawer.  Whatever it is, remember you do not have to reach your goal immediately.  Break up your goal into smaller tasks and tell yourself “good job!” when you accomplish anything, so you can stay inspired.  Remember, you don’t have to be great to start!

“Doing nothing often leads to the very best of something” -Winnie the Pooh #doingnothing #motivation #creativity #rest #possibilities #opportunities #selfcare #dreaming #inspiration #reflection

Posted by on Dec 31, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Yes, Winnie the Pooh did say this…despite being a toy he is full of wisdom for all of us! Today is the final day of 2018 and a great time to stop and do nothing for a while.  Maybe you can use this time to reflect on the year or dream of the possibilities that 2019 could bring.  When we use time to stop and just be, ideas can come, opportunities unfold and potential can be realized. Doing “nothing” could also be walking, sitting, relaxing and staring at your computer at work pretending to be working while instead you are meditating, reflecting, dreaming etc. (I won’t tell!)

The challenge this week is to carve out some time when you have some energy think, relax and just be.  Let your thoughts come and see what unfolds.

Cheers to 2019 and the “very best of something” for you!

“We all have within us a centered place of wisdom, harmony, and strength”-Arianna Huffington @ariannahuff #happyholidays #wisdom #strength #zen #mentalhealth #selfcare #inspiration #happiness #harmony

Posted by on Dec 24, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Our hope is that this 2018 weekly Blogspiration has given you the inspiration to make positive changes in your life for personal wellbeing as you continue on your journey of growth.

The quote this week is to remind you that at the center of yourself, is a person who is happy, strong and creative.  It may not seem like you have those qualities on the worst days, but they are there!

Enjoy the holidays while finding peace and positivity in the small moments that matter most.  You know what those are 😉


Happy Holidays from Life Prep Counseling!

“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have”-Anonymous #strong #mentalhealth #family #depression #anxiety #strength #holidays #courage #boundaries #conflict #choice #relationships

Posted by on Dec 17, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Family is often a topic that comes up around the holidays…sometimes it’s positive, sometimes it’s negative.  One thing I’ve noticed over time in being a therapist is when clients do the work and change for the better, certain (negative) family members often have a hard time accepting these changes.  When we develop better communication skills, courage to say our feelings, the ability to say “no” and create boundaries, it is not well accepted by the people who test you, say hurtful things and have certain expectations.  These scenarios can and do sometimes work out to create better relationships, but they also just as well create unwanted tension and holiday drama.

While you are around those family members who know how to get under your skin to the point where you keep replaying Frozen’s “Let it go” in your head over and over as your anger levels rise-try a different approach.  Find the strength to be brief with this person, let them know how they are affecting you and create a boundary for yourself.  For example, “This conversation is bringing up negative emotions for me, I think it’s best to go help Aunt Gigi with the ham now.” If you usually fight with them or it turns into the blame game, this will most likely catch them off guard at first to give you enough time to escape to the kitchen.  Sometimes being strong and empowered to say how you feel and address conflict head on can be daunting, but when it’s your only choice-it can show you just how strong you are!

Vision Boarding Event this Saturday-Come be inspired and set goals for 2019 #goals #inspiration #visionboarding

Posted by on Dec 13, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Come join us this Saturday in our Toms River office for Vision Boarding from 10am-11am

  • Snacks will be served
  • Learn to goal set and form the habits you need to reach your goals
  • Create a vision board and other materials to stay inspired for 2019

Bring a friend!  We still have a few spots left

Register here 

“Accept yourself for having trouble accepting yourself. Life is set up to make it hard for people to accept their weaknesses and imperfections” -Mira Kirshenbaum #acceptance #strength #weaknesses #imperfections #perfect #selfcare

Posted by on Dec 10, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

We all have flaws.  Sometimes certain ones stand out more than others and can be hard to accept.  We may continue to put ourselves down in our head with our self-talk, some of us let this negative talk in our minds consume us and debilitate us from being who we want to be in the first place.  Kindness matters, no one likes a bully anyways. Imperfections can contain their own type of beauty.  For example, I recently bought my daughter a decorated cupcake.  She picked the one that had a little splotch of paint on the top and said “see mommy, they painted it.”  The other cupcakes were “perfect,” with no splotches at all, but my daughter picked the one that showed an artist was there.  That pastry artist may have been beating herself up for that one little splotch after decorating the 20 something cupcakes in that case (that all probably tasted just as good).  I see the little splotch representing hard work, patience and artistry to make a tiny 2 inch snowman on the cupcake.

This week, be kind to yourself and understand that imperfections make you who you are and also make you interesting inside and out.  What “paint splotches” do you have and what strengths do they represent for you?  We all have our own “stuff” that builds our character and helps connect us to others.  As you learn to accept your weaknesses and find the strength in them, help others do the same.  We can all use some strength and kindness every day.

“Focus on what you do want in life and you’ll be surprised at how much of it shows up” -Hal Elrod #focus #priorities #whatmatters #december #inspire #dreams #possibilities #goals #mindfulness #motivation #selfcare #monday #values

Posted by on Dec 3, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Where we focus on attention matters.

If you find yourself feeling stressed, a lot of the time it’s because your energy is going to something that doesn’t align with your values.  For example: considering this time of year…if you are stressed about running out to the mall for holiday gifts while your children are irritated to tag along and want to make cookies at home; it’s time to take a step back and look at what’s happening.  Perhaps you are frustrated just thinking about putting on your furry parka,  holiday traffic, crowds, lines and would rather be making cookies yourself!  If we take the time to stop and focus on how to change our situation, we can start to see other solutions, but when we are stressed those solutions aren’t possible to see.  Having a moment to think…ordering gifts online and paying the $5 shipping cost may just be worth your minimal stress level of avoiding all the mall mayhem and feeling happy as you make and eat those delicious cookies at home in your pajamas.

This week, when you find yourself stressed, start to think of other possibilities that would make your situation a tiny bit more pleasant that better matches up to what you value in life.  You may not be able to change everything all at once, but little changes here and there can make a huge difference in your energy level and happiness. I think once you discover the value in changing your focus on what you want rather that what “should” be happening, more of that good feeling will begin to show up more and more.

Sending positive vibes to open up those possibilities this week!

“Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it”-Andy Warhol #beauty #perspective #thankful #gratitude #appreciation #thanksgiving #cybermonday #motivationmonday #mindfulness #wonder

Posted by on Nov 26, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

Coming off of Thanksgiving, I wanted to give out a quote that keeps us in the mindset of gratitude and finding beauty in the little things.  Babies and small children are the best at this…they can look at a stick and smile, appreciating the beauty, texture and sometimes taste of objects we take for granted.  Little kids seeing things for the first time are often blown away and can’t stop talking about their simple experiences.  As adults, we need to reconnect with this sense of wonder of the world.

The challenge this week is to take a moment and look around you.  What do you notice that you didn’t notice before?  Use all of your senses and see what happens, you may surprise yourself!  Whatever you notice, appreciate it…it’s the little things like breathing that not everyone sees, yet we need to do it to be alive and can learn about what we are feeling if we pay attention to how it flows.

Bonus: If you are feeling really good after this experience, write it down so next time you feel crappy you can come back to this and find the beauty and stillness in the chaos.

“I have so much to accomplish today that I must meditate for two hours instead of one”-Mahatma Ghandi #mindfulness #awareness #goals #motivation #selfcare #rest #sleep #reboot #energy

Posted by on Nov 19, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

When our days are packed we tend to leave ourselves behind…and sometimes our coffee.  At least that’s how I judge my time.  If I’m at work at 7am and my coffee is still half full by noon, that’s my sign I need a break!  This quote is a great reminder that when our schedules are full, so are our minds and rest is important for us to re-energize and recoup some energy for whatever’s next in your day.  I realize that this is near impossible for many…lunch breaks are now fantasies, a thing of the past.  Today we are more connected and have more demands than ever.

The challenge this week is on your busiest day, actually schedule a break.  Your brain needs time to process and recoup!  Make sure it’s somewhere no one can contact you, preferably out of your place of work.  Use that time (hopefully you can get anywhere from 30-60 mins) to just be, meditate, listen to music, go for a walk, read a book, etc.  It’s important to make sure your phone is not in reach as well as that can be a perfect distraction from awarding yourself this time to reboot.  Be mindful of this exercise on your busiest days and I think you will begin to feel less stressed and more accomplished 1 “mental recovery” break at a time.  🙂

“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it”-Nicholas Sparks #heal #heartbroken #relationships #emotion #mentalhealth #nicholassparks #love #intention #depression #forgiveness

Posted by on Nov 12, 2018 in Blog | 0 comments

So many emotions can break one’s heart from anger to jealousy to plain hurt and disappointment.  I think everyone experiences emotions that seem to break your heart open in terms of relationships whether they be with a friend, significant other or family.  Whatever those emotions are, they can provide an avenue to heal yourself.  We can’t change how others think or treat us, but we can control how much energy we let them have by being in our heads and controlling our emotions.  One of my pet peeves as a therapist is hearing “How does that make you feel?” (I’m cringing just typing it!).  When we use “make” we imply blame on someone else and I don’t know anyone who blames others and then feels better.  You are in control of what happens in your head.

Use those negative relationship emotions past or present to fuel your drive to give something to yourself this week instead of giving energy to someone else who has hurt you.  This can be saying something positive in your self-talk such as “I’m awesome!” or “I’m a great friend.”  Whatever it is, be kind to yourself and remember you are in control.  Believe it and refocus that energy on something positive for you because I bet that person that hurt you doesn’t deserve to be in your head!