We all know someone who tends to victimize themselves instead of taking any responsibility for their choices. For example, someone who blames a roommate for not being able to finish their studying due to loud music when they didn’t ask for the music to be turned down or neglected to leave for a quieter setting. Or maybe it’s blaming the weather for not being able to go for a run when there is a dusty treadmill in the basement. Some blame others, some blame circumstances, some blame themselves.
This week, notice when you are blaming others or circumstances. Then, ask yourself what was really in your control. Sure you can blame late time at work for spending money at a restaurant after, however when we think it through: in the time spent driving and waiting at the restaurant, there probably was plenty of time to cook dinner and save money!
Think about how your decisions affect your values as well. If you don’t want to go to happy hour because you value your family time, make the decision not to go this week and see how you feel differently. Take control where you can through your decisions and don’t let those circumstances get in your way!