Unless you are dreaming of reaching your goals in the future or thinking of a happy memory of the past, chances are the past and future won’t get you anywhere positive. Our minds tend to dwell in the past and in the future with a negative flare. In both places, there can be negative thoughts, worry, rumination and self-doubt, who wants that?!
The challenge this week is to notice your thoughts, are they in the past?…”I was so stupid when I said that!” or in the future?…”I’m never going to pass this test, I will fail!” Then focus those thoughts into the present without letting them spiral back to the past or forward to the future. For example with the past, “I was so stupid when I said that” can become “That probably wasn’t the best thing to say, right now there’s nothing I can do accept be more mindful next conversation.” For example with the future, “I’m never going to pass this test, I will fail!” to “I have been studying hard, so all I can do is try my best and wait for the results, right now I have no idea what my score will be.” Notice how each thought has an ending instead of spiraling back to the past or forward to the future. This is hard to master, however once bringing your thoughts to the present becomes a habit, I am confident that’s where you’ll find a happier you!